Lately
I've been speaking with students who feel they are
doing something wrong because when they invite the
Holy Spirit into a situation it often seems that
the situation gets worse. Shouldn't it be all
happy-happy peaceful when you turn something over
to the Holy Spirit? Yes and no. "Yes" it will
eventually be peaceful but "no" initially there are
usually some things within you and in your outer
life that need to be brought in line with your goal
of Peace. If your external circumstances need to
change then often you will experience a period of
external turmoil that can be very uncomfortable.
And if it's your mind that needs to change then you
might find yourself confused, disoriented, afraid,
unhappy, and disturbed. Sometimes, of course, both
your inner experience and your outer world need to
change and then it's extremely uncomfortable.
For example, you've accepted a path to God and
you have invited the Holy Spirit into your life.
Every one of us who is a student of A Course in
Miracles has done this and we all go through a
"period of undoing". Initially, this period can be
very peaceful and happy because of the Peaceful,
Happy Goal that you have accepted. But soon all
hell breaks loose as your life in the world is
adjusted to fit this new Goal. For me, since I was
only twenty and didn't have much of a life yet,
this consisted of leaving a job and moving back in
with my family. It was not too uncomfortable
because I didn't feel I had much to lose. But for
many, who often make the choice for God when they
are older and have a more complicated life in which
their identity is heavily invested, this can be
downright excruciating. Divorce, bankruptcy,
foreclosure, business loss, job loss, friends
falling away, moving - sometimes all of these! This
is when you most need to trust that you have
accepted this new path and that the Holy Spirit
will take you safely through all the changes that
need to occur to line up your life with it. Even
after the initial "undoing" you experience when you
first accept a path to God varying degrees of
"undoing" are going to happen in your outer life
every time you experience a significant shift
within yourself.
Relationships are an area where quite often the
changes that need to occur are only in your own
mind. When you invite the Holy Spirit into a
relationship it can be quite rocky at the beginning
as all of your past experiences and beliefs rise to
the surface. The Course is quite explicit about
this uncomfortable period, beginning in Chapter 17,
Part 5 (The Healed Relationship). You are used to
following the ego in relationships and the ego
wants to project your past onto the other so it can
seek retribution for it in them. But now you have
chosen Holiness as your goal and to attain this you
have to first confront the fears that you project
onto the other from your own past. When you choose
Peace and Holiness you choose healing and you have
to deal with every belief that stands in the way of
your healing. All the pain that comes up in the
relationship is not a sign of trouble but an
opportunity to heal. Again, all you need to do is
trust the Holy Spirit to carry you through the
discomfort and out the other side to Peace. Peace
is always right here waiting for you to overcome
your obstacles to It.
Liz Cronkhite is a mentor for students of A
Course in Miracles. She has been a student of the
Course since 1984, and a life-coach since 2000. You
can learn more about her, and the mentoring and
resources she offers students, at
www.acimmentor.com.