Success and Miracles: Ask Nick Arandes

Hi Friend,

>How can I continue to manifest things I desire
>in my life, while my family continues to live their
>lives in the negative environment of gossip and
>alcoholism? It seems like I have to work extra
>hard to manifest my desires and have the external
>challenges of my family. I love them for where
>they are at and sometimes it just gets so
>overwhelming that I seclude myself in my
>wonderful home. Any suggestions?

Dear Friend

I thank you so much for submitting your question and keep in mind that I don't have the details but from what I see, here what I can suggest. First I do understand how difficult it is being in an environment that is so negative. Paramahansa Yogananda once said: "Environment is stronger than willpower."

Meaning that we can work really hard at being positive and happy, but if the environment we are surrounded by, the people we are surrounded with does not support us, that uphill battle eventually can caught up with us. So what do we do?

First we must understand that this is a personal journey. Here is what I mean.

> I love them for where
> they are at and sometimes it just gets so
> overwhelming that I seclude myself in my
> wonderful home.

I agree you love them. The question is, is being there serve you? I loved my mother and my grandmother but as hard as it was for me at the time, for my own sake, I had to move out.

See, being positive Friend in a negative environment, which by the way, these are just labels, negative, positive, who knows. Let's rephrase that. Being in an environment that does not support you, and staying there, the question you may want to ask yourself is, how can I move on with my life? What can I do to move in the direction of my heart desires? The universe will support you in anything you do.

But for some unknown reason you have made the decision to stay there. I am not blaming here Friend. I am just simply giving you the opportunity to reclaim your power. The fact that you can honestly say, "I chose to stay here," gives you the power to make a different choice.

So you can love them all you want but if they are not supporting you on your journey, maybe the issue is letting go of the fear that is stopping your from going on with your life. Is it guilt? Fear of being criticized? Fear of the unknown?

So to help you connect with the power and presence of God within, here is a suggestion. Ask for what you would like to happen in your life and keep a journal of the "little signals or messages" that seem to show up in your life supporting your new direction.

Do not ask for how you wish they should be. They are just being them. This is their path, their journey. You can do whatever you want to assists, but there is one truth. Until they are ready, any assistance that comes their way will automatically be rejected by their unconscious behavior. Who knows, maybe you moving out may motivate them to rethink. But that is not the reason why you may want to move out. You do what you do because you are guided from some place deep within. You are guided by your heart yearning for growth and expansion.

At some point you'll have to make the final decision. However, by seeing these little synchronicities showing up in your life, it helps build the faith you need in order to take the leap because at some deeper level you'll begin to convince yourself of the fact that there is an unseen Force supporting you on your journey.

Notice Friend that during this whole message I did not talked about your family at all. And the reason being is, where they are at is where they are at. The question is, where do YOU want to be? It's your life!