Success and Miracles: Ask Nick Arandes

Hi Friend,

Thank you so much for your email and I do understand what you are going through. And although there is no rule of thumb as to what to do or not to do in regards to a particular situation, there are common practices people in your situation can do. To make it easy, I am going to brake it down as I observe what you have written.

> I'm really finding myself in difficult times at the
> moment, I have split up with my partner of X
> years and we are trying to sell the house before
> it's literally taken off us down to our financial
> situation.

I don't know the full details of the situation and here is what I can say. Everything that is happening to you in this moment, is working for your highest good. And I don't mean that I am taking sides here. The truth is, it is working for the highest good of all concerned. Some people may understand this and some wont.

The irony of life is, the more we hang on to something, the more tension we create around it, the more we actually plant it there. See, positive thinking is one third of the equation. There is positive feeling and positive guided action. When we let go, is like saying, "Universe, you handle this."

But it's hard for most people to let go because when they do so, their assumption is that they are loosing something. But indeed, they are opening space for more to come in. This is a hard concept to grasp but the truth is, when we let go, that's when we open the floodgate for things to come in.

> I am currently finding it tough getting work to keep
> up with bills until our house is sold, which is
> really not good and is causing tension with my ex
> girlfriend as we are having to live in the same
> house until sold/taken off us.

The first thing you may want to ask yourself is, what's more important to me? Peace, or hanging on to this situation? What I do when finding myself in situations that trouble me is, how can I bring peace to this situation? Even at the extend of loosing the house if that is the case. In other words, the world we live in, is just an illusion manufactured by our mind based on our beliefs, ideas, things we've learned, etc. What if instead of trying so hard to make it work your way, you can release it to a higher power and say, "Universe, please allow this situation to work for the highest good of all concern. Whatever needs to happen, I allow it to be."

What that means is, you can maintain your peace regardless of what's happening. Because here is the deal, releasing it to a higher power means that you do not have to do it your way. The challenge you seem to be facing right now is the idea that you need to know how this thing is going to work out according to what you believe it should be. That is the mystery that keeps most people in suffering and struggle. You don't have to give up whatever it is you think you need to do, the question is are you coming from a place of fear or power?

I am going to share a story with you that happened to me over a year and a half ago as I was filming this video. I just relocated to California and was doing well financially. Then I moved to this house on the beach with a roommate, took few months off and put some of my money in an investment which held it for a year. Around six months I was having major challenges with that roommate to the point I had to get out of that place. The challenge was, I gave a 30-day notice, didn't have any income coming in, AND my investment could not be touched until 8 months after that.

In other words, I was about 30 days to being out on the streets. In my meditations what came through me was the making of this video. Keep in mind, I was not asking what to do or anything. I was simply saying, Universe use me. Bring me some ideas as to how can I generate income fast. And let go. Then I would go on with my day. That's it.

The idea of the video course came to me like a brick hitting a wall. Loud and clear. It was only a matter of me acting upon it. Here is the thing, I didn't have much to my name at the time and common sense, or should I say, most people would have said, "you need to save what you have, etc."

With few extra dollars I had, I invested in a video camera and the information started to flow through me. I did not let the fact that I was three weeks away from being out on the streets get in the way of my vision. I just kept my focus on creating this video course. Most importantly, staying present in the moment. Because that is the point of power where inspiration flows in, and by not focussing on the future, or the possible future I was open and receptive.

Think about this Friend. Here is a guy who is about to teach others how to manifest miracles, meanwhile I was heading to the streets. I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine who is a coach and said to me, "Don't you see the blessing here? You are now about to prove the principle you are about to teach to others by example."

And I really got it! The truth is, some of the greatest breakthroughs come as a result of breakdowns. Neale Donald Walsch wrote Conversations With God which has been translated in over 40 languages and is a very profound spiritual book while he was broke, sick and his wife ran away from him. When Dan Millman wrote The Way Of The Peaceful Warrior, he was still working at a bookstore. When Og Mandino wrote The Greatest Salesman In The World, he was homeless.

Here is the thing, breakdowns does not have to be painful. They are just that. We make them painful by adding our story to them. Long story short, I released the videos. I move out of that house and found myself at a hotel not knowing where I was going to go since I was flat broke and the investment I had I could not touch. In other words, I asked for a miracle and wanted it to produce money fast. Well, the miracle came alright. The videos were done. But that's about it. The money did not come as I was hoping for it. I didn't judge it, I didn't condemned it. I didn't play the victim. I was just grateful for the idea and stayed in the present. In other words, I simply trusted and surrendered.

That same morning I got a friend who called me out of the blue. Someone I just met few months back. I shared what was going on but didn't ask for anything, I was simply sharing some of the ideas I had in order to get through this. She said, "That's it, you are coming here."

During that time I had a beautiful house to stay in with full wireless internet access so that I could continue working on my sites and my projects, in return, since I own a studio, and I do web design, etc., I did her website, recorded some CDs and covers for her to sell at her engagements and I was living there rent free.

Lots of other amazing things took place, but that is just a synopsis of the fact that if you just simply let go and instead of wanting things to go your way, surrender, you can then look back and see the perfection of it all. This looks like a hard pill to swallow, specially if you are caught up in the myths of a challenge so I honor that. That being said however, the principle of surrender and trust remain the same.

Here is what I would do in your situation. I would say, "well, seems like there is nothing I can do at the moment. So I am going to relax into it and let it be. If I loose the house. So be it. If I keep it, so be it. I am willing to open my heart and ask for guidance as to how can I work this out so that my ex-partner and I can make the best out of this without me needing her to agree or be like I am. If she is willing to partake on this journey of personal growth fine, if not, I will do my best to work on surrendering and trusting because even when I may not see it, I know there is a hidden gift within all of this and I trust that everything is working together for my highest good. I am going to trust it and let it be."

And always look for ways to find your peace. Because in that peaceful place is where ideas and that inner voice communicates. If that means going to a park in the afternoon while she is there and be at peace, then do that. You'll be amazed as to how quickly the universe responds. It is actually responding to you right now. The key is to get your mind out of the way with your own ideas. If you try to tell the universe how to do it by filling your mind with your own ides, the universe don't have any room to bring ideas in because your mind is full of yours.

> I have been studying these principles for the last
> 12 months and have been real positive in my outlook
> and my ability to manifest the life I desire, but
> it's getting to a stage now where I'm really finding
> it difficult to imagine this situation getting any
> better. I really do try to stay positive all of the
> time trusting that my intentions will manifest in
> divine order.

Instead of trying, just let go! It is not about trying to be positive. It is about trying to be tranquil. There is a difference. A positive mind, although better than a negative one, is still an agitated mind. What you are striving is for a quite mind. Also, your idea of a positive outcome may not necessarily be the ideal outcome.

If you were to ask, what would need to happen in order for this to work out for me? You can come up with plenty of ideas. Just like I could have come up with having all the money I needed over a year ago. Now I look back and I would not change anything because that experience have only strengthen my faith and taught me more and more about myself. Something that no seminar would have ever taught me.

> What would you do if you were facing my situation.
> With being behind with bills and bordering on losing everything.
> I kind of answered this in the previous paragraph but I am going
> to add something to the following line you wrote. I am
> following your advice and trying to listen to my
> intuition to guide me in the direction of my next
> move, which doesn't seem to come. Maybe I'm not
> recognizing it?

Pay attention to what I am about to say. Sometimes we say that we are trying to listen to our intuition and nothing is coming up, when indeed what we are really saying is, "I am desperate to make this work and I am trying to force myself to come up with something that is satisfactory to me based on my assumption of what I think should happen."

See, what if you let go and allow to happen whatever it is that needs to happen, and instead of judging it simply observe it? Instead of identifying yourself with the situation, simply observe it. From a place of peace you have more power to do something about it than from a place of fear. And the fear is because you are fueling the situation with your thoughts.

When I was about to be out on the street, I just simply kept doing what I was inspired to do, and still ended up in a hotel for one night. But instead of making it an issue, I started focusing on the blessing. I was out of that house, I had a video course finished, I have my health, I had plenty to eat and some money for the next few days. I really kept focussing of what I was grateful for. "Sounds familiar from the course?" ;-)

The very next morning, from that peaceful place, look at the miracle that took place. The rest is history! I have gotten amazing stories from people who have taken the video class, and little did they know that while some of them were watching it, I was dealing with my own struggles.

> I don't think that I'm entering into this from the
> perspective of desperation or I'm at least trying
> not to.

There is an easy way to find out from which perspective are you entering from. Ask yourself how do you feel. If you feel great, empowered, or peaceful about it, then you are not coming from a place of desperation, which is just another way of saying fear. If you do not feel good about it, or agitated, etc., then you know where you are coming from. There may be too many range of emotions and feelings but they all boil down to only two. Love or fear. Or we could say, Trust, or Fear.